Friday, December 20, 2024

Sparkly and Magical, 2024 edition

It's the night of December 19th and that is Christmas Eve in the Lag Liv house this year.
We leave for our trip on Saturday, we need to pack tomorrow, and Santa needs to come tonight so that he can deliver things the kids will need to pack. Pizza is ordered, Landon and the girls are wrapping up their respective swim practices (a post on swim traiming philosophy coming soon I promise!), and I am in my buffalo plaid on the couch watching Elf and banging out this blog post (almost! finished it Friday instead).
December has been its usual whirlwind of insanity, sugar, and sparkles.
We decorated super early, thank goodness, and it's been fun to enjoy the holiday lights in the morning as we go about our busy days.
Last weekend was our only semi-free weekend (and by "free" I mean Claire was babysitting Friday and Saturday nights, Cora had swim practice, Landon had swim practice, and we were hosting a party for Claire's whole high school swim team on Sunday night), so I decided we were doing our remaining precious traditions in the space in between those events.
I made sugar cookie dough Friday night after work.
On Saturday I baked the cookies after errands and before a few hours of work.
Cora is still my eager little helper and I love that for both of us.
Also on Saturday we decorated the upstairs family tree. It has all our beloved historial, commemorative, and handmake ornaments. Claire insisted this couldn't be done in daylight, so we did it when she got home from her Saturday night babysitting gig.
On Sunday I had a few hours of work and then we did our cookie decorating when Landon got home from practice!
One of my favorite things about December now is all the facebook memories each day showing us decorating cookies throughout the years with a whole range of tiny children. We started doing my childhood sugar cookies when Landon was 18 months old and continued every year since.
Making this year 18 of us doing cookies with our crew!
They are so so dang good. (The cookies, recipe here6 from my Swedish Great Grandma, but the kids are good too!)
Immediately after wiping the sugar off the table and vacuuming up sprinkles from the floor we got ready to host about 65 people in our house for Claire's high school swim team holiday party! We had a taco truck in the driveway and everyone brought desserts and drinks. It was pretty easy as far as hosting goes and a lot of fun. I finally met some of the parents and the kids did their White Elephant gift exchange upstairs in the gameroom. Man do I love having an upstairs gameroom.
By 9 pm everyone had left and we were all cleaned up and I pretty much passed out in bed.
It was actually a really nice weekend. We got the things that mattered to me done with our full crew present, holiday music coming through the speakers, and our favorite Christmas movies on TV.

On the non-holiday side of things, here are Cora and James at her last Cotillion class Monday night. We had completely forgotten about it until I was out with some of my favorite badass Dallas lawyer moms and saw two girls walk by our table in sparkly dresses with dressed up dads. "Oh my god is Cotillion tonight? The one with parents?" I texted James under the table. "Yep. Shit."
But within 30 minutes he and Cora were ready to go and James got to dance the waltz with his Cora bunny and see how she can shake hands with eye contact and a nice introduction of herself. She also learned about formal table placesettings and some other general etiquette stuff. Cotillion success!
I took Maggie on a walk- she loves a chilly weather day- and she stopped to smell every flower. She is so wise.
Meanwhile Milo is forever hopeful he will get a bite of his human brother's dinner. This has never happened, but for Milo food-related hope springs eternal.
He's also just the snuggliest bestest cat.
And he knows it.

Since I didn't get this finished last night I might as well share some "Christmas" pictures too!

It was actually a lovely little night. We ate pizza, changed into pajamas, turned on the fire, and did our usual youngest-to-oldest gift opening order.
We opened gifts from my sister over Thanksgiving and we're doing our exchange with my parents and brother and his wife when they come to Dallas after we return, so last night was just gifts from our little family. The kids bought each other some thoughtful things and from us Landon got a tech suit (speaking of swimming, those things are crazy expensive and didn't exist when I was swimming; he's gotten one for Christmas for the last 3 years), Claire got Ugg booties, and Cora got an Instax camera.
Christmas morning involved a very awake Cora who had to go to school, and a very asleep Landon and Claire who didn't (neither had any finals today), all gathering on the stairs so they could walk out to the living room together.
Because we did our "big" gifts last night, this morning was just stockings, which is so fun.
Coincidentally many gifts had to do with international travel, like adapter plugs and compression socks. And of course some purely fun stuff too.
And that's our little Lag Liv family Christmas! Cookies, gifts, pajamas, traditions, sparkles, and love. And tomorrow- adventure!
Happiest Holidays to you and yours, I'm so grateful I still find moments to write and far more grateful you're still here to read.

Saturday, December 7, 2024

From the Stands of a Swim Meet

I'm sitting in the stands of a swim meet in Garland, Texas waiting for Landon to swim his second event in finals tonight. I spent last night on a freezing cold soccer field watching Cora's first game of a 5-game tournament in Allen, Texas, and while she played great and there's something magical about a night game, it is a bit less sparkly and magical when it's 40 degrees out, very windy, and you spent your week not sleeping in DC and very much wanted a Friday night on the couch and/or in bed.
But, such is the world of youth sports! We've actually been pretty measured in our approach. Landon didn't start club swimming until 7th grade, which is considered quite late (James and I have a different opinion than most on how early you should do club). Cora still hasn't started club soccer and instead has a great rec team that costs $150 and has one practice a week (compared to $4,000 and 3+ practices/week). Claire is just swimming with her high school right now and her only extracurricular is math tutoring.

And yet, there have been zero minutes spent in front of a Christmas movie with a fire roaring in the fireplace on this freezing rainy weekend, so somehow, we're still not exactly winning.

But the kids are!

Cora's team won their game last night, tied their game this morning, and won their game tonight that was played in freezing rain. The girls had a blast; James's one and only text report to me was "Miserable.". Not sad this is the first session of Landon's meet I switched out with James to attend.

Landon is going all best times so far at this meet, which is GREAT given that college swim recruiting has already started. He's talked to a few coaches, but he's not quite fast enough to catch the eye of the schools he really wants (all NCAA Division 1 Top 8, which would be, in order: Texas, Arizona State, Indiana, Florida, California, NC State, Georgia, Stanford, etc.). Being recruited by one of them is a tough but realistic goal for him and he's getting closer every meet!

Claire spent last night babysitting, all day today with a friend (they walked to get their nails done at a salon near our house, and so the babysitting money is already gone), and is babysitting much of the day tomorrow. Really a perfect weekend for her.

The cell service at this natatorium doesn't like me, so we'll see what my hotspot lets me upload... I have 8 more events before Landon swims his 100 back.

10 days ago we were driving to Boulder, Colorado to spend Thanksgiving with my sister and her family and my parents. We arrived late Wednesday night and Thursday morning found my sister and me at a HIIT class that nearly killed me. The altitude combined with a solid week away from the gym (life has been crazy; my workout streak is long gone) was ROUGH, but it felt great, especially after 13 hours in the car and before the amazing meal we were about to prepare.
We started the day with a charcuterie that the kids ate as fast as I could cut things to arrange on the board I got my sister for an early Christmas present.
The kids (her girls are ages 3, 5, and 8) had a blast together as always. Mine adore having their young cousins to play with and the little cousins love their bigs. I'd gotten the girls art stuff for Christmas so MUCH art-making was done, along with snow ball fights, an attempt at a snow man, a game called lava that I never fully understood in the basement, and more. It was so great.
Cooking for our crew required the recruitment of a bucket for the mixing of the stuffing, which is totally normal and not at all weird.
My brother in law smoked one turkey and deep fried another and they were so perfect. Oh, he and Landon also ran to the store for more butter and accidentally came home with a honey-baked ham, so we had that too.
I contributed a butter turkey all the way from Dallas. I worked very hard on (buying) him.
I also helped with all our sides. I am an excellent chopper and find uniform cuts very soothing.
The meal was absolutely delicious. Kids and adults agreed!
The rest of the weekend was more kids playing, a great hike, my sister, mom and I working out EVERY DAY (two pilates reformer classes in a row was like an early Christmas present for me; LOVE THEM), playing cards, more basement lava game for the kids, and more cooking and eating.
Oh we also played cards and for the first time in my LIFE I got beat at multiple rounds of Blitz, which was horrifying. I blame the Altitude. I did win a round by the end, so I don't have to hang up my blitz pile forever.
Also, my sister adopted a feral cat named Simon from their local TNR program. Simon was supposed to be too feral to come indoors, so he was going to help keep mice out of their barn in exchange for food and a safe and cozy indoor space (in the barn) for him to use when the weather got too rough. But a few months into his apprenticeship, Simon decided he wanted to be an indoor cat after all. And here he is, purring up a storm with Landon, who was talking to him about important cat things I'm sure.
On the last night we went to the Denver Botanic Gardens for their holiday lights exhibit and it was absolutely wonderful.
A crisp cold night, beautiful lights, and 6 happy cousins.
It was a perfect finale.
Claire's face in the picture I got of James and I kissing under the mistletoe is just the cherry on top.
We drove home Sunday and dove into work/school/life Monday morning. The reentry was a little rough but everyone got to school on time, in clean clothes, and with a packed lunch.

I flew to DC on Tuesday for work and came back Thursday night. It was a VERY busy 3 days, I had one client event (that I was hosting) that started at 9 pm and that is past the time I'm supposed to be in pajamas. I rallied, but y'all, I am tired.

I did enjoy my outfits, all of which involved items I've owned for at least a year, and mostly more, but which I hadn't paired this way. Reason one million Bonnie has changed my life, she works magic with what I own:

Tuesday: WWCDA Annual Awards Gala, pre-parties and after-parties with vendors and clients. (Those are my Grandma Mary's shoe clips! Love them for some added sparkle on my Rothy's.)
Wednesday: Video calls, working from the DC office, lunch with a contact, the DC office litigation group holiday party, and a V&E client/contact party for after the ACI FCPA conference.
Thursday: More calls and working from the DC office, a breakfast/coffee trip with some junior associates, a DC office partner lunch, and the flight back home which I had to do in my boots because I couldn't finangle them back into my little suitcase. I'd worn the cap off the heels, so they're being fixed at the cobbler as I type.
And that's it! Here's my ensemble today - it's soccer/swim meet cozy chic.
And they're announcing Landon's heat! Go Lanman! Swim fast! And not just because I want to go home and put on pjs and sit by the fire!

Sunday, November 24, 2024

A Week in the Life

This week has been 100 days long, but also feels like a pretty standard example of a week in the life. It's Sunday morning at 7:30, everyone in my house is asleep, and I have an hour before a HIIT workout class a friend signed me up for that will probably kill me because I haven't worked out much this week because, well, you'll see. Let's go through it.

Sunday

I decided to decorate our house for Christmas ridiculously early because we're going to Colorado for Thanksgiving and then we only have two weekends in December at home. I adore our Christmas house, but I equally hate making it happen, so I just dove in. Around 1 pm I realized we had to leave for Cora's party in 90 minutes and I had not yet made her cake, so I started that. James and Landon were at the pool and got home in time to take the birthday girl and her friends who I told could be dropped off at our house for a ride off to the trampoline park, while I stayed behind because I had just made the most delicious chocolate frosting but the cake (actually a half brownie + half cookie = Brookie cake) was still piping hot.
I joined them at the party 45 minutes later, the girls bounced around like crazy people, and everyone loved the Brookie. Our theme was "purple" and involved a sparkly tablecloth from Amazon and plates and napkins from the dollar store. This is your third kid turning 11. And honestly, it was pretty great.
We got home at 5:30, got Claire from her babysitting job, made dinner, and then afterward I caught up on the work I should have done earlier in the day instead of decorating for Christmas.
Monday

Everyone has school and we get up about 6:40 (well Landon had 6 a.m. swim practice, so he leaves at 5:35). I'm drinking tea, doing Cora's hair, giving Maggie her pain medicine (she had her mastectomy the Friday before), and helping keep the trains on time while James makes the girls breakfast and packs their lunches. I leave at 7:40 am to drop Cora off on my way to work. James can take her, but if the stars align and we're ready at the same time, the morning is easier if I do it so he can drive the opposite direction for Claire. Landon swings back by the house between practice and school starting, so sometimes I see him before I head out, but not when I take Cora.
At work I have a video call with the SEC on a matter, followed by a bunch of other calls, both internal and external. I was supposed to do a HIIT class at the gym in the building at lunch, but for the first time in 6 weeks I just... don't want to. So I don't. I work some more, eat my protein bar + yogurt + apple at my desk (I call this my partner power lunch), and get ready to leave early.

Botox appointment at 4 pm. Lauren is made of magic and I'm in and out and home by 4:45.

I check in with the girls. Claire did great on her Biology quiz and Cora is excited about the Scholastic Book fair the next day. James takes Claire to math tuturing at 5:30 while I help Cora pick out a dress from her closet to wear to Cotillion later that night. I log back in and work until dinner. James gets Claire from math while dropping Cora off at Cotillion. We eat (he made veggie stir fry with noodles), I go back to my office, and Landon wanders in the door from his second practice of the day at 7:45 pm while James is picking Cora back up. I go sit with Landon while he eats, Cora joins us and I hear about her night ("it was okay. We learned how to introduce ourselves and dance the cha cha"), and Claire is doing the dishes.
I go back to work. As has become his tradition, Landon pops into the room at some point, usually with a cat, to hang out while I work.
Sometimes he's just quiet, sometimes he's just sharing observations about the world that don't require a response, and sometimes he's talking to me. I love it more than almost any other part of my day.

All the kids, pets, and my James circle through my office at some point in the evening. I go upstairs to take my bath, put on pj's, kiss everyone good night (including James), and come back down for a few more hours. Milo keeps me company and I log off about 1 a.m.

Tuesday

Everyone has school, so the morning is mostly the same as above, except this time I'm going straight to my personal training session when I arrive at work, so I don't have to do much to get myself ready beyond packing so I can get ready at the gym.
My personal training session is so great. If I could afford it I'd do one every day. The trainer who works in the building is so good. He always has my workout ready and he has me to crazy things with increasingly heavy weights and I feel so strong and capable at the end of each one. Going once a week has really been great and I hope to continue that. (Also, my executive physical revealed that my bone density is borderline low. My mom has osteoperosis, so that wasn't shocking, and he highly recommended more weight bearing exercise to hold off any additional weakening.)
I get ready in the locker room, listening to my morning news podcasts and remembering when I had morning practice every day in high school and always got ready in locker rooms. I'm at my desk by 9:30 with the first two of probably ten cups of tea and have video and regular conference calls from 10:30-4:30 straight. At least one of those is a training call at noon that involves lunch if you want to run up to the 39th floor to grab it, which I do, because man, today is not the day for my sad partner power lunch.

I leave about 5:30, hoping to have time for a walk, but forgetting how early it gets dark. That's just as well because I have plenty more to do. Claire has been sick off and on so James took her to urgent care (again) and this time they decided her sinus infection had indeed become bacterial so now she has antibiotics. She's skipping swim practice but James takes Cora has been sick but is finally better. Landon is already at his practice. I pack for my trip to Houston in the morning, chat with Claire, eat dinner with the fam, and go back to work until 1 again.
With a visit from Landon of course.

Wednesday

I planned to wake up early for a walk before the morning kicks off, but I do not. Oops. I help with the morning scramble, finish my packing, drop Cora at school, come back home and finish getting ready. I have back-to-back video calls until I need to leave for the airport.

I fly to Houston, go straight to our office, and meet up with the team I'll be presenting a CLE with in the morning. I grab a visitor's office and get some work done (I've gotten so used to my giant double screens I am basically crippled when facing my tiny laptop screen), chat with some of my partners on the same floor, and then head to the hotel across the street to change into jeans for dinner.

Our speaker dinner is fabulous - at a great restaurant that had just been awarded a Michelin star the week before. I enjoy my partners very much, the food is amazing, and the meal is 3 hours long. Not exactly what I was planning for the evening, but it's fine. I get back to my room and go to bed immediately. I missed the calls from the kids, which sucks, but Claire sends enough texts to make up for it.
Thursday

I planned to wake up in time to hit the hotel gym, but as is my theme this week, that does not happen. Instead I woke up to James calling me so the girls can say good morning and I realize I was supposed to already be dressed by now. I rush around doing that while chatting with him and listening to the girls bicker about Cora getting ready faster so Clarie can get to school in time for breakfast. I give them a cheerful farewell and leave James to handle that bit of chaos. I get ready myself- the nice thing about traveling is I don't have to think about my outfit. On panels we were pink!
Our event runs from 8:30-12:00. I speak for an hour somewhere in the middle. I'm the ethics credit of the CLE, so obviously I'm everyone's favorite. Plus who doesn't love "what not to do" SEC stories?
I sneak out around 11 to join the partner meeting to welcome our newly voted in attorneys to the partnership! If I couldn't be in Dallas, it was nice to still be in one of our offices to join the official certification of the vote and toast our new members. Somewhere in the middle James texts that his car was making a bad noise so he's at the shop. We're supposed to drive to Colorado in his car next week, so fingers crossed it's nothing big.

I re-join our presentation, eat lunch and talk to attendees, and then change into my jeans to head to the airport and fly home.

I land to a text message from James saying his car needs two things replaced. They can do one tomorrow for $1800 and another on Monday for another $1200. Awesome. Upside: I can pick him up from the car place on my way home from the airport, so I do that. "Hi honey, I've missed you." We catch on the status of our children on the drive home.

I have a client event at 6 pm, so I'm unpacking, checking in with the kids and pets, responding to the emails I got while on the plane, and picking out something appropriate for the "Mariah Carey Holiday Spectacular" that I'm about to attend. As luck would have it, I have multiple options available.
I settle on the Santa dress I bought at Marshall's for a party I hosted 6 years ago. I have a little bin in my closet labeled "holiday outfits" and it brings me great joy to get it out and re-wear something awesome. I almost went with a faux leather black skirt and red silk top, but I texted my client a picture of the Santa dress and she said "WEAR IT" and the client is always right. About fashion anyway.

She lives near me, so we met at my house, enjoyed a toast of champagne, and then called up an Uber to head to the American Airlines Center.

I quickly realize I am not at ALL out of place in my Santa dress. The suite is awesome and full of food and more champagne. We have 8 women partners and 16 clients in attendance and it was SUCH a fabulous event.
Mariah is a well preserved 55 who knows what her people want. She stands, she sings, her hair and face do not move, and she disappears every 3 songs or so for a little rest and an outfit change. It was glorious. And ended, of course, with "All I Want for Christmas Is You" at 10:15 pm.
Being 10:15 pm after a hell of a week, I assumed we were going home. But no, my client is much cooler than I am and next thing I know we're at a hidden dive bar in my own neighborhood that I've never heard of. They have a secret Vietnamese food menu after 11 pm that the owner's mother cooks herself in the tiny kitchen. It's nearly 11 pm and packed. Who are all these adult people just OUT on a random Thursday? There are so many single people in my neighborhood too! Again, no idea. I think one flirts with me? I'm also pretty sure I said something like "I'm married and my husband is hot as fuck, sorry." So, I'm a party.
Several egg rolls, a pork taco, and a Cosmo later and I am calling it. I make an executive decision that it's time for both of us to go home and tuck us into an Uber. I get home at 12:30, accidentally on purpose wake up my hot as fuck husband to have my way with him and then fall fast asleep. I think I consumed 1.5 bottles of champagne over 8 hours. What even is this life I don't live?

Friday

I am so tired. I am too old for this. No hangover, probably thanks to the tacos and egg rolls and five cups of water I downed at the bar, but woke up to a missed call from Landon. His car died on a busy street on the way back from practice. Because he is the calmest of humans, he apparently turned on his hazards, waited a minute, tried again to turn it on, got the car around the corner onto a residential street, and waited for us to call him back. One call, no voicemail, no texts. I cannot tell you how much I would have been blowing up the phone of anyone I knew if this happened to me.

James's car is still at the shop, so he takes my car to get Claire and Cora to school, and then rescues Landon and checks on the car. It's definitely dead.

They both come back home, where I am working and already on my 4th cup of very black tea. Landon gets a ride to school from a friend and James calls a tow truck to get Landon's car to the same shop where James car is still a guest. Sadly, there is no multiple car discount.

James does his James things with my car, Landon gets a ride home from school, I walk to pick up Cora, and Claire goes home with a friend to go to the mall. We learn Landon's car needs its transmission rebuilt which is a million dollars and will take two weeks. James's car will be ready by 6 pm. Yay?

I am still working. Milo is helping.
We go get James's car when it's ready, picking up pizza on the way home because what is $50 of pizza in light of the day's automative events. We eat, watch a Christmas movie, and everyone is tired.
Claire goes to dinner with her friend and her mom invites me to join. "I'm already in pj's without a bra," I respond to a fellow fulltime attorney who I barely know but also know will understand. "Sounds amazing," she responds.

A friend texts to see if I want to join her for a chill hour at a local wine bar. You guys, I have waited all 2.5 years of our time in Dallas for this - for friends, for people who want to do things with me, for reach outs I don't have to work for, and I have to turn two down in one night.

"I'm going to bed at 9:15," I respond. "Walk in the morning?" she writes back. "Perfect."

I am in bed by 9:20 and fell asleep so fast James told me the light was still on.

Saturday

I sleep for 9.5 hours. I feel like a new person. My friend meets at the house with her dogs at 8 a.m. and we go walk the lake. It is beautiful.

I get home in time to kiss Claire goodbye for her swim practice (James is driving her, then going to his own practice, then picking her up) and get Cora ready for her soccer game. The game is great - they made it to the big season-end tournament in December!

Cora asks for donuts on the way home and I say sure, we get to the donut place and I can't find my wallet. Maybe I left it at home?

Chase Fraud Alert is calling me: "Did I just attempt a $1,412.67 purchase at Target?"

"No."

Fuck.

My wallet was stolen during the soccer game. I think maybe it was on my lap when I got out of the car and dropped on the ground? It had my driver's license, two credit cards, my corporate card, a debit cards some cash (thankfully I never have much), and insurance card. Fraudulent purchases were made on every card in there. I spent a while on the phone and computer canceling things and reporting fraudulent charges. This sucks.

I go out to the patio to work in the beautiful weather with some printed documents I need to read. I get a few pages in and next thing I know 3 hours have gone by and it's dark outside. Involuntary nap attack. Not surprising, but also not at all what I needed to be doing.
I get the status of the house: Claire is at a friend's, Cora is going to a friend's, Landon is having a friend over. I work a bit for real this time while James grills some dinner. We eat, Claire and her friend come over and the kids decide to go in the hottub. I decide to finish The Diplomat Season 2 with James instead of working and it's so good. We get a call that Cora bonked her head at the friend's house and also there is some drama among the girl group so James goes to rescue her while I decide it's long past time for pj's.

I snuggle a teary Cora on the couch for a bit when she gets home and then I realize it's 10:15 and time for bed. The teen friends are still over, I tell Landon they have to go by 11 and go to bed. I have no idea what time everyone left.

Sunday

I wake up bright eyed and bushy tailed. I get my tea, realize that nearly all of our doors were unlocked all night, and feed the pets.

A friend is taking me to a crazy HIIT workout class she loves and I'm realizing that I may finally be well-rested but my physical conditioning could not be worse. Oy.

The girls have a time trial and Landon has practice. I teach him how to turn on my beautiful new car so he can get to the pool because his car will be gone until early December. He thinks my car is awesome and I say I know, don't hurt it. I start this blog post and realize I'm not going to finish.

The exercise class is INSANE. It's an hour, there are like 40 people, crazy loud music, and heavy weights. It makes me realize how much I'm NOT doing when I work out on my own at home. I get a headache, feel like I'm going to pass out, and also like I've never been more alive.

I go home to find the front door unlocked (this is a theme when my otherwise very smart oldest child is involved), make some eggs and a yogurt parfait. I settle in to work a bit, except I actually just write this blog post, and then James and the girls get home. We're going to watch a Christmas movie later and I have a dinner out.

So, that's the week? The kids are out of school and we leave for Colorado on Wednesday. We get back Sunday night and then I'm in DC for most of the next week and part of the one after that. We're hosting Claire's school swim team party on the 15th and we go to Egypt for 12 days on the 21st. That seems impossible and I'm living life one day at a time.

I just saw that Moana 2 is out on Tuesday, so obviously we will be seeing that, along with Wicked at some point. I'm so glad holiday movie premieres are a thing again. Also, doesn't Maggie look like Pua?
Happy almost Thanksgiving everyone!