About Me and My Blog


Hi, I'm Lag Liv and this is my blog. I started it in November of 2006, when I was a 2L at the University of Chicago law school and it quickly became a central part of my limited free time. In the throes of new motherhood (and 3L year), it was my place to vent, record milestones, and get advice. In a very dark time, it was my place to find support. And now, as a full-time attorney and mom of three, it's my platform to share this life that I love so much- and also to memorialize all the things my kids do so I can one day go back and fill in their baby books.

That's my husband JP. We both swam for UT in college and met by getting kicked out of a bar at the same time on my first night of college. Four years and two college degrees later, we got married, and two days after that, we drove up to Chicago so I could start law school. As soon as I graduated from the University of Chicago we drove back down to Texas with our one-year-old in tow where he started business school at UT. We've now been married for 8 years, have two graduate degrees, a bunch of student debt, and three delightful children. JP is an amazing husband and father and the most supportive, loving partner I could ask for.


This is our Landon. He was born 5 weeks early in July of 2007, the summer after my 2L year. He gave us a rather difficult time as a baby, but has more than made up for it with his generous nature and easy-going disposition. He is super social, loves to run and swim, and considers his sisters' happiness and safety to be his personal mission in life.


That's our Claire (aka Clairebear and Biscuit). She was born in June of 2010, near the end of my 2nd year at the firm, and was as easy a baby as her brother was hard. She is funny, fierce, and extremely affectionate. Her favorite things are her big brother, her pink blankie, playing babies, wearing sunglasses, giving hugs, running, jumping, and being outside.


And this is Cora. She was born in November 2013, about 18 months after I left the firm to work for the SEC. We're still getting to know her, but so far she loves to be snuggled, hates her car seat, and gets LOTS of attention from her big brother and sister.


And that's our family! I graduated from law school in 2008, spent 3.5 years as a litigator at a big firm in Austin, and now work as an attorney with the federal government. I have a passion for cookies, books, french fries, shoes, school supplies, and organizing things. I like my job, love my family, and hope you enjoy reading my story.

14 comments:

  1. little belly's mum10/25/11, 6:18 PM

    Here's to hoping I can get to your state of happiness some day! I have a 4 1/2 month old cherub in the middle of double Social Science and Laws degree and commencing part-time work in 3 weeks. I'm terrified half the time but your story gives encouragement! Thank you!

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  2. Whatever happened to Rosie? Did I miss a post somewhere, I just noticed she seems to be AWOL!

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    1. No, I was waiting to make sure the new arrangement was working and then I wrote about it in the comments to a previous post: "Rosie has a new mom! We'd been thinking for a while that we really just weren't enough for Rosie- she has such a huge heart and such a huge (bottomless) need for love that we felt like with two jobs, two kids, and another dog, we didn't give her enough. She got the basics, but Rosie had a seriously shitty early life and she deserved someone who could spoil her to death and give her the one million pets a day that she so desperately wanted. Through a friend of a friend we found a woman who was looking for a somewhat older dog "to spoil" (her words) and Rosie seemed like a great fit. They met, the woman fell in love, Rosie drove away in the front seat of her civic with a smile and without a backward glance. We've received email updates and pictures for the last few weeks and I think we have a permanent, happy match. And for us, oh my goodness is it easier to have one dog. Tex gets to go on a walk every day because I can hold his leash with one hand and push Claire's stroller with the other (previously, I couldn't handle the two dogs on my own with the kids, so they only got to join our walks when JP was home too, which almost never happens before dark) and he gets a lot more attention. JP will be working from home, so he'll have company during the day, and since he doesn't snore (unlike Rosie), he now gets to sleep in our room which makes him VERY happy. Tex is a sensitive sole and would have been broken-hearted if he left us. Rosie is a very sweet girl who could be happy just about anywhere (and is). All in all, it worked out well for everyone."

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    2. Sounds like a happy ending for everyone :) Thanks for the update!

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    3. It did- she's Princess Rosie now. And she'd be glad to know you were checking on her :)

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  3. Wow! Great to see that you can be a successful lawyer AND have a family ! I hope I can stay balanced and put family first when I graduate from law school!

    Alex B.H.
    Scribere Est Agere

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  4. You're such an inspiration. I wish I had a way to contact you but I am interested in your opinion. I am a pregnant 2L who will be a summer associate at a top V5 firm in NYC -- the firm isn't as up tight as some of the rest but I'm concerned about being pregnant there. Opinions? Oh, I'm also not married (which im sure is an important part)

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  5. how old were you when you entered law school?

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    1. 22. I went straight through from undergrad.

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  6. Hi LL,
    I'm 25 years old, married with a 8 month old daughter (and one on the way- complete accident!) and I still have a dream of going to law school. It was in the original plans but then I thought if I wanted a family before I was 28 (I have a 10 year difference with my husband) maybe I should get my Master's in early childhood edu and be a teacher instead. I started it, but got pregnant mid way. Despite it being a high risk pregnancy, I finished my classes (5 shy from a Master's) with honors. I still have my heart on going to law school. From what I Read from your blog, it sounds like my daughter is like your son- a bit tough to deal with at times.:-) I have 2 questions for you. First, with two kids in the house (and a husband who is a restaurant owner-meaning he's rarely home) is it even possible to study for LSATS let alone go to law school? and secondly, say I study at night while their both sleeping and get into law school, how can I learn to be a law student that 1st important year with an infant and a toddler?
    Your blog gave me some hope, yet I am still quite pessimistic. Any advice is greatly appreciated!
    Jana

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    1. Hi Jana! I wrote a longer response to this question generally here, and I think the comments from others are as helpful (or maybe even more helpful) than the original post. Basically, I think anything is possible if you want it badly enough, but you'd have to want it REALLY badly. Like you couldn't be happy doing anything else and that knowledge alone will get you through what is going to be a hell of a 1L year. I had Landon right before my 3L year when I already had a job lined up and my grades were pretty much irrelevant (and I had a great relationship built with my professors and classmates which ended up being incredibly important when I had to miss so much class for Landon's various hospital stays). I couldn't have done it 1L year or 2L year and I definitely couldn't have done it without an available and involved husband; I don't know that having nights/evenings available after the kids go down would be enough time to get all the reading and studying done. It wouldn't have been for me. Is part time an option? That might help. Though again, it's hard to recommend that when the job marked for lawyers is so incredibly tight and competitive and your options will be limited with those programs depending on what you want to do after graduation.

      I don't know how much help that is. Basically, it would be really hard. Really, really hard. If it's all you want to do and have ever wanted to do, then do it anyway. If there's anything else that would make you happy and fulfilled, I don't think I'd go down the law school path (ever, but much less with 2 young kids). Regardless of what you choose, I wish you the best of luck!

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  7. I have read your blog for a long time and really look up to you as both a mother and lawyer. I recently had a child and have not been able to establish breastfeeding. I have noticed that you bottle feed your children. I was just wondering if you wouldn't mind sharing your reasoning for this. I feel tremendous pressure to continue breastfeeding though it is not working out for us. I know this is very personal so it completely understand of you would rather not address this topic.

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    1. Hey DA! Email me at lagliv@gmail.com and I'll be happy to chat with you about it. I've found that convo topic is best left to personal conversations :).

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  8. Dear Lag Liv! I just discovered your blog. I'm a fourth year PhD student in literature considering leaving the academy for law school. My main concern is that if I apply this coming year, I won't start until I am 30. As a woman, without kids, but with a stable partner, is 30 too late to start law school? I know I'd want to litigate, possible working at a firm like you did first, and then moving to the government. Any advice for someone thinking about starting over a few years off track?

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