Saturday, September 20, 2025

Saturday Morning at Home

Good morning and happy Saturday!
I have a ton of work emails to catch up on, but I just dropped Claire off for warm-up at a high school swim meet, I'm about to wake Cora up so she can get ready for her swim practice, and Landon and James are already at their respective pools for their own swim practices, so I'm stealing these few minutes between swim carpools to catch up here.
Then I'm going to pilates, maybe, because I'm trying to go to fitness classes again, but I get annoyed at how long they take. (Picture of me above at a class a couple weeks ago; I know they're good for me, but I don't even get sweaty and it's hard to feel like the time is "worth" it. I wish the harder studio was closer to my house.) Anyway! September. I was in DC, then we had our anniversary, and then everyone was home for one whole weekend before we scattered again.
We made use of the time with a new card game - Play Nine - that is a fancier version of the Golf we'd been playing with a regular deck of cards for years.
Despite Landon's face in this picture, he both had fun, refused to follow any rational strategy, and somehow won by so much I had to check my math multiple times.

The pets remain a constant. Maggie continues to occasionally trap herself in the downstairs guest shower with no clue how to get out.
To be clear, she's the one who gets herself inside in the first place. She uses her big head to push open the door that easily swings in and out in both directions, turns around in the shower space, and then stands by the door on the other side of it, with seemingly no clue how she got there or how to ever get out again. Eventually one of us will realize she's missing and go look for her. This is always the first spot to check.

Murphy is settling in nicely. He's very friendly and is always around us. He completely resists cuddling though. Has anyone had a cat who didn't want to cuddle at 18 months old (and only 1 month into being adopted) but then became snuggly later? I'm trying to adjust expectations.
Moose is being more social! He's been jumping on the couch when humans are already on it.
He's doing this by choice, but always looks a little/lot uncomfortable about it.
Landon went on his first swimming recruiting trip! He and James flew to The Ohio State (turns out, the "the" is important) on Thursday.
The schedule was packed with fun for swimmers and parents alike. The school flew out Landon and covered the hotel for James. Both were very impressed with the athletic facilities, which had changed a lot since James went on his own recruiting trip there in 1998! Landon roomed with some swimmers, they both attended a game, and everyone had fun.
James and Landon flew back Sunday morning, landing about 30 minutes after I had taken off for NYC for work. This passing of ships (planes) meant that James and I were apart for 7 days which is the longest we've been apart since we were married! Kind of a funny mielstone after just celebrating our 20th anniversary the week before.

My trip was 5 nights, but my trusty carry-on suitcase (and large "personal item") managed to fit everything I needed.
NYC remains one of my very favorite places to be.
I walked miles and miles in Central Park, reaffirming my plan that James and I are moving here after Cora graduates high school.
Some people have a city adventure in their 20's. Mine will be in my 50's. I'm genuinely very excited about it.
My new firm's NY office is great and I got to meet several more of my partners.
I discovered a gluten-free bakery directly across the street from the office and I ate a pastry and bagel sandwich every morning I was there.
I weighed 4 more pounds when I returned, but I have no regrets.
Except not getting an extra cinnamon roll to go for the flight home.
Speaking of "home," my temporary home in NY was a crazy hotel room at The Lombardy. I booked a normal room, but somehow opened the door to a Titanic stateroom from the early 1900's.
I had a very fancy foyer, a huge living room and dining area (with fire place!), and a full kitchen.
A giant bedroom with clouds on the ceiling.
My bathroom was all green marble and amazing molding and a mysterious black tufted leather door.
That turned out to be a secret entrance from the foyer.
It was really something.

I finished taking my last deposition on Thursday midday and was able to hop on an earlier flight home to reunite with my loves. The plane started boarding while I was still in the Uber to LGA, but I made it! And even the second-to-last-row middle-seat was worth it to get home more than 12 hours earlier than planned.

This weekend I need to catch up on many work things, attend Cora's meet tomorrow, find outfits for our family pictures coming up in a couple weeks, exercise (whether or not in a studio), and catch up on South Africa blog posts. So obviously the first thing I did was switch out the winter/summer bins in my closet. Most of my clothes stay out year-round, but I have two bins that I switch halfway through- sweaters for sundresses, etc. It's going to be 95 today, but it made me feel hopeful that I can wear sweaters soon. Ish. By January for sure.

Let's close out with some favorite outfits of the past couple weeks!
Ayron comes back in a couple weeks for styling and I can't wait. I continue to be amazed at what she puts together in my closet- nothing in the above pictures is new, but it's all worn in a way I hadn't before.

Happy Saturday all!

19 comments:

  1. We’ll welcome you warmly when the time comes for you to move to NYC! I know you won’t be retiring right away, but I think it’s a great place to be a retiree: excellent medical care, public transportation, and you can spend your free time visiting museums and attending concerts.

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    1. Yes! I want to spend my last decade as a lawyer in NYC, enjoy every minute of it, and then see where the kids have settled and where we want to be. I could totally see spending some early retirement years in the city as well.

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  2. Our rescue cat took a long time to warm up, including hiding under the bed the first full week. Even his file said he "may never be a lap cat," which is laughable now because he demands to be held and cradled like a baby and follows us around the house requesting pets. He is the most cuddly guy now, so there is definitely hope for Murphy! A month is still very new!

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    1. Aw sweet boy! Murphy LOVES pets and is always in the same room with us. He’ll put two front paws up on my chair to ask for more pets but seems to have no interest in actually jumping up for a lap sit. If I put him there he accepts pets but clearly wants down. He otherwise seems so comfortable and at home. Moose isn’t cuddly but we’re hoping Murphy still decides to be!

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  3. We adopted our sweet rescue kitty when she was a year old and she was very present but not snuggly. Now she loves to sleep on our laps and will curl up with my husband while he’s napping. There is still hope!

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    1. Loves this!! We love Murphy and he’s ours regardless but I love hoping he’ll still be a lap cat one day.

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  4. Is that an Away carry-on? How do you like it? I am looking for a hard-sided carry-on with more than 40L of capacity. Away comes up again and again, but I am nervous about the poor reviews specifically about the zipper quality.

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    1. It is and I LOVE it. I bought mine in 2021 when I started traveling for work again and I haven’t had any issues. This thing has literally traveled the world with me, stuffed to the brim, and still looks and rolls perfectly. I actually want to get another color but can’t justify it bc my original is still so good.

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    2. Great to know! Thank you!

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    3. Which size/style of Away carry-on do you have? I need to purchase a new carry-on and as we've started to travel internationally more often, I am nervous about getting one that is too big to qualify as a carry-on for international flights.

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    4. I have the Away Bigger Carry-On. Hasn't been an issue on international flights, except when we've been forced to check because they think there isn't room in the overhead bins for any additional bags.

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  5. Hi, I adopted a very nervous and shy 1-yr old cat a couple of years ago. She liked to be petted pretty much from the start but to this day will not lie on my lap on her own initiative. If she sleeps on the couch and I scoop her delicately, she may spend a bit of time on my lap. Sometimes, she also puts her upper half on my lap ;-)
    Because it's rare, these cuddly moments are very precious and demonstrate that she trusts me, so I don't mind - but I can understand that it would be frustrating, especially for kids.

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    1. Thank you for this! That's a very sweet perspective, give your girl a pet for me <3.

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  6. I'm interested in hearing more about Ls college decision if he (and you) are comfortable sharing. Specifically, how involved you guys are in helping him decide vs how independent he is in the process. I have a senior who is so self sufficient I'm not sure if it's my job to speak up or step back

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    1. Ha, this is a very timely question! So we had been letting him handle it - he is very self-sufficient and way more invested and organized than he pretends to be. He will be swimming in college, which changes up the situation a lot - you don't apply until you know you have a swimming offer and you apply through the athletic department, so he can't really start any applications right now. He emailed every coach in the Top 40 at the end of his summer season and was basically told he needs to get faster, so he's in a strange limbo while he waits for his first season meet October 4th. That said, we did sit him down yesterday evening to talk about picking a short list of schools he really wants (he insists he doesn't care about any one over another, which is probably true, he just wants to go to the best swim school he can, but we told him to make a list anyway) and reaching out to those coaches again. Maybe it won't matter, but if he ends up about the same rank as another swimmer, maybe the extra interest will. He's unimpressed with our plan, but we did push and he's doing it today. His back-up is that he's in the Top 5% of his high school class so he can automatically get into UT. He can't swim there (they're ranked #1 and crazy fast) but he could swim club, so I think his lack of stress is knowing he can go to a great academic school regardless.

      So the answer is I don't know! I have a feeling we'll be more involved with Claire, at least to check in and see where she is in her process and making sure it matches with her goals.

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    2. We are in a similar (but also vastly different) situation. My youngest son is planning on studying Musical Theatre in college. The stats are D1 level acceptances EXCEPT no one is recruiting you.
      So far, he has academically applied to 26 (!) schools and has to prepare and submit 26 prescreen auditions (the good news is that MOST of them require the exact same thing and are a part of a system similar to Common App to submit them). It's a process. The understanding we have is that it's HIS process (he is also mature, invested, and more than capable) but I will help how and wherever (and not just transportation). So far I have researched audition application fees (he got a common app fee waiver, thankfully), updated his performance resume, and scheduled new headshots

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    3. This is all super interesting, since I have a senior applying as well. I am trying so hard not to nag and micromanage. We have a great flagship state school he could attend if his California dreams don't pan out, so maybe I will just have to relax and leave him alone, since I know he will be fine.

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    4. I recently heard the author of a book called _Dream School_ interviewed on Lisa Damour's podcast. Highly recommend. It's about each kid's 'dream school' being unique to them.

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  7. We adopted 2 kittens at 10 weeks. One is cuddly one on one but not a lap cat and the other is super friendly and social but not a cuddler and I don’t think she will ever be! Both hate being picked up too, though we handled them plenty as kittens with minimal complaints. I figured we had some time to mold their personalities since we got them so young but they are truly cats and not open to any suggestions from their humans. That said, I’ve also known cats who went through drastic personality changes over their lives, so you never know!

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