tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3552008288188142238.post8238839928807360129..comments2024-03-27T12:22:20.528-05:00Comments on Lag Liv: No RegretsLLhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04431706155081017734noreply@blogger.comBlogger27125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3552008288188142238.post-15585691865409437742008-04-09T12:57:00.000-05:002008-04-09T12:57:00.000-05:00you certainly know how to make a hormonal pregnant...you certainly know how to make a hormonal pregnant woman cry. in a good way. beautiful post.ohchickenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16965782534798318412noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3552008288188142238.post-19224603032827868872008-04-09T10:49:00.000-05:002008-04-09T10:49:00.000-05:00Wow, this post actually made me tear up. JP sounds...Wow, this post actually made me tear up. JP sounds like an amazing person- you're both so lucky to have each other. Keep your chin up. We're all rootin' for you! :) (Even if you are ditching out on Chi-town...)Ninihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18303811834073106127noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3552008288188142238.post-12430281548760174002008-04-09T04:10:00.000-05:002008-04-09T04:10:00.000-05:00I've followed intermittently for a while now, but ...I've followed intermittently for a while now, but never wanted to butt in until now. You guys have had such a tough break in this first time with your baby (who is adorable btw). I have really felt for you guys, but at the same time I have been in awe of how well you have handled it. You have really rolled with the punches, and I am amazed at how you have kept up with your studies! <BR/><BR/>I hope that your move to Austin (totally jealous) will be a positive change for all of you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3552008288188142238.post-39249981072973132032008-04-08T19:47:00.000-05:002008-04-08T19:47:00.000-05:00You rock, LL, as usual. Oh, and "average baby" doe...You rock, LL, as usual. Oh, and "average baby" does NOT sleep 10-12 hours by 3 months! Their tummies are still small! My "easy baby" sleeps 6 hours max, wakes up, then sleeps 3 more and I'm thrilled :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3552008288188142238.post-18658668897732810972008-04-08T17:59:00.000-05:002008-04-08T17:59:00.000-05:00Thank you so much for this post- it came at the pe...Thank you so much for this post- it came at the perfect time.<BR/>I'm a 1L at Georgetown and we are going to start trying later this year- aiming for pregnancy in my 2L summer if we get really lucky.<BR/>Last night my husband started to seriously question if we were doing the right thing, if we were too young (we're both 25 now). Reading this post has helped to reinforce my belief that this is the right choice. After all when is it any going to be any easier? The saddest thing I see really is women waiting and waiting for the 'perfect' time, and time just slips them by.<BR/>Thank you for your strength and courage- this blog has been a wonderful find!KChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05750984210726624891noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3552008288188142238.post-32445311681055332832008-04-08T13:23:00.000-05:002008-04-08T13:23:00.000-05:00This is a wonderful post. I've always felt a baby...This is a wonderful post. I've always felt a baby's 1st birthday marks a greater milestone for the parents than for the baby, but you will get to that point having had a MUCH tougher year than most first time parents. You've got a great baby there though, that's for sure. You and your husband are doing an incredibly difficult job incredibly well, and with so much love. Good for you!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3552008288188142238.post-17133113279813328382008-04-08T12:12:00.000-05:002008-04-08T12:12:00.000-05:00I love that song dramamama! Every time I hear it,...I love that song dramamama! Every time I hear it, I think I should write a blog post about it. I suppose I just did...LLhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04431706155081017734noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3552008288188142238.post-24088949331265875172008-04-08T12:10:00.000-05:002008-04-08T12:10:00.000-05:00The whole time I was reading your post, the song "...The whole time I was reading your post, the song "You're Gonna Miss This" was running through my head. I have had those feelings before (and still do sometimes). This song says it perfectly. Check it out:<BR/><BR/>http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5j22cmJwkbM<BR/><BR/>Not the best video, but the sound quality of the live performance was really bad...dramamamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15266611158925778159noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3552008288188142238.post-30327053218935012442008-04-08T11:33:00.000-05:002008-04-08T11:33:00.000-05:00I have been reading your site for a while, but nev...I have been reading your site for a while, but never commented before. <BR/>I just have to say, the way you summed up life before a child and the joys afterwards, was one of the best postes I have ever read anywhere. I have often had the same thoughts, but never the courage to say them out loud or even finding the right way to say it in my head was hard. My husband and I are young and are the only one of our friends who are married and have kids and it makes it hard sometimes. When they are all going out last minute or just hanging out late night..Sometimes it gets us wondering if we made the right decsion too...Thank you so much, and personally, I think you writing this post, makes you an awesome person and a GREAT mother. <BR/><BR/>Thanks again,<BR/>TashaTashahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06786633339092945973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3552008288188142238.post-87051048731816561892008-04-08T10:16:00.000-05:002008-04-08T10:16:00.000-05:00wow. great post. i love your honesty. I could s...wow. great post. i love your honesty. I could see myself having those very same doubts, even after going through fertility treatments. heck, i have them now!Bengali Chickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06030646989651589089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3552008288188142238.post-40707272082204742522008-04-08T10:08:00.000-05:002008-04-08T10:08:00.000-05:00I've wondered the exact same thing many times. I'...I've wondered the exact same thing many times. I've even thought maybe all of Cora's health problems were some sort of cosmic karma for being so smugly certain I was ready to have kids. But I don't think anyone's ever ready to have kids, regardless of their age, experience or circumstances. And I definitely have to applaud the single parents out there, because I honestly don't know how they do it.Andreahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11173655298262399906noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3552008288188142238.post-10351097345727691162008-04-08T09:24:00.000-05:002008-04-08T09:24:00.000-05:00This is a great post, LL. If you'd waited to have ...This is a great post, LL. <BR/><BR/>If you'd waited to have kids, it wouldn't have been easier or harder ... it just would've been <I>different</I>. And you wouldn't have had Landon at all ... he would've been someone else.<BR/><BR/>And I think that when you think of it that way ... you'll find that you happily would've done it the same way, all over again.moohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18071861788945352081noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3552008288188142238.post-54276424907194080332008-04-07T23:51:00.000-05:002008-04-07T23:51:00.000-05:00Listen, you. Having two nearly perfect children wh...Listen, you. Having two nearly perfect children who were at least (actually more, but I'm their mother) as adorable as Squirmy, I can tell you--it's easy some days to be convinced of the enormous mistake you made. You can be convinced of that even when your kids don't have exotic medical issues and do tend to sleep for reasonable lengths of time. And of course it wasn't a mistake at all. It is, though, a sweet day when you look at each other and realize that soon it will be just the two of you again, and you're still young enough to enjoy it. ;)<BR/><BR/>Also: hurrah for teeth breaking through! Big day.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3552008288188142238.post-72758504763336746162008-04-07T22:39:00.000-05:002008-04-07T22:39:00.000-05:00That was so sweet and so honest. I get so frustra...That was so sweet and so honest. I get so frustrated with Justin because he gets so short-tempered with Cooper (who is a difficult baby, especially compared to Gavin) and I keep wondering, "maybe we should've waited to have him," because I feel trapped between my unconditional love for my baby and my love for my husband who is an incredible father.<BR/>thank you for your honesty...we truly appreciate it.<BR/>plus, could you imagine trying to go through all those sleepless nights when your an old lady like me? :)Wineplzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12412881827548705342noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3552008288188142238.post-19285851645870217092008-04-07T20:19:00.000-05:002008-04-07T20:19:00.000-05:00Thank you Law Student Hot Mama- and thanks for the...Thank you Law Student Hot Mama- and thanks for the little story about your husband. I know I don't even know you, and I know almost nothing about him, but I often think of him in Iraq and you waiting for him to come back, and I wish you both a speedy reunion.LLhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04431706155081017734noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3552008288188142238.post-19510623525164565492008-04-07T20:08:00.000-05:002008-04-07T20:08:00.000-05:00I have to say, this is one of the best posts I've ...I have to say, this is one of the best posts I've EVER read. Seriously.<BR/><BR/>First off, I've SO had that moment with my husband when even though he had to get up and go to work, he was the one to go feed the baby. He was the one who volunteered to take the "second shift" at night because he knew I hated it during Sumo Baby's ear infection. This post made me miss him SO much . . . not just miss the extra set of hands (though of course, I miss that!) but miss how selfless and giving and wonderful he is. *sigh* Too bad Iraq is so far away.<BR/><BR/>Also, I think it's very brave of you to be honest about how frustrating life with Landon can be now. I swear I think you guys are getting all the hard stuff out of the way now and you should ENJOY the teenage years! All the bad stuff will already be done, so you can just enjoy the rest. <BR/><BR/>Anyway, that was a really long comment, but what a GREAT post.KGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10236206776336550381noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3552008288188142238.post-72143413678707672562008-04-07T19:14:00.000-05:002008-04-07T19:14:00.000-05:00Once again you made me cry (specifically it was ab...Once again you made me cry (specifically it was about you falling in love again with JP and the dung beetles in God's hands). And remember - that friend you visited would love to be in your shoes right now. :-)Lizhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00204887336624915971noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3552008288188142238.post-3837962605632155782008-04-07T19:02:00.000-05:002008-04-07T19:02:00.000-05:00P.S. - Maybe you can get Landon bitten by a rat. M...P.S. - Maybe you can get Landon bitten by a rat. My mom was bitten by a rat as a baby (in Calcutta) -- she still has a scar on her arm -- and we joke that it gave her superpowers because she never gets sick.CMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01559451322234777335noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3552008288188142238.post-43661028977051963502008-04-07T19:01:00.000-05:002008-04-07T19:01:00.000-05:00You and JP are amazing. I cannot believe all the t...You and JP are amazing. I cannot believe all the three of you have been through since (before) Landon was born, and you are still managing to all get up and get dressed in the morning and do what you need to do every day and even plan for major life changes coming up.<BR/><BR/>Sometimes I think that my marathon labor with K showed me how strong I could be. You can look back on the entire past year and know you are capable of incredible strength.<BR/><BR/>Like everybody else, I also sometimes long for the days when I could sleep in and do whatever I wanted, and I have an easy baby. I'm so glad for you that at the end of it all, you know it's worth it. But honestly, I wouldn't fault you, and wouldn't think any less of your parenting, if you weren't so sure. It's been so difficult for you and I hope that not too long from now you'll be able look back and say, "Thank goodness the hard part is over with."CMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01559451322234777335noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3552008288188142238.post-74925698877443944882008-04-07T18:47:00.000-05:002008-04-07T18:47:00.000-05:00It IS hard. There will be several times when you ...It IS hard. There will be several times when you will question why you've done what you've done. But you'll always know that is was, indeed, worth it. It's not always something you like (nor are your children) but it's something you love (just like your children). We, too, started earlier than most of our friends and I am so grateful. <BR/>Keep being honest. The world needs more honest moms.<BR/>J.Janinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00949809367923657970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3552008288188142238.post-10211667507701930572008-04-07T18:21:00.000-05:002008-04-07T18:21:00.000-05:00Like others have said, it IS hard and you HAVE had...Like others have said, it IS hard and you HAVE had a harder time than most. And I remember asking myself that hard question a number of times in the middle of the night during the early months. But this cute stage he's in now? It keeps getting better and better. You have a lot to look forward to.Beccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05156777853779141522noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3552008288188142238.post-26679680816974935692008-04-07T18:14:00.000-05:002008-04-07T18:14:00.000-05:00A few months ago, I found your blog when my husban...A few months ago, I found your blog when my husband and I were debating whether we wanted to start a family during my third year. It felt amazing/comforting to know that someone in a similar situation had done it and hear about your experiences. Because your blog is such an honest account of the pros and cons of having a baby in law school, in some ways I value what you say more than advice from people I know, who are usually biased one way or another. After going back and forth for a month or so, and wondering if we would regret starting early (or not starting) a year from now, we just started trying and are very excited. I would like to think we are not naive about how hard it will be, but I'm sure we can't even imagine what's in store for us. It was just really nice to read your post today because I think it reinforced our decision and validated our (sometimes) self-doubt since it is a hard decision to make. I hope everything keeps getting better for you all!LEOhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03081911312259246237noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3552008288188142238.post-50696202921525498302008-04-07T17:37:00.000-05:002008-04-07T17:37:00.000-05:00It's really hard at times. But you don't have to w...It's really hard at times. But you don't have to wait 18 years to start getting some of your life back. Once your kids start getting school age, you can start hanging out a little more on weekends. They start sleeping later. They like to read too. By the time they are teenagers you've got people who want to go to movies with you and eat out once in awhile. The key is to not let them take on so many activities that your life is sucked away with running around. Also my completely unsolicited advice is to have 2 kids. I have 4, I love them dearly, but 2 are easier to balance. <BR/><BR/>You are in the most intense part of parenting. It's so natural to feel everything you are feeling- both in terms of doubt and joy.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3552008288188142238.post-48213348556896993312008-04-07T17:08:00.000-05:002008-04-07T17:08:00.000-05:00It is hard, but you have had it more than most.Ave...It is hard, but you have had it more than most.<BR/><BR/>Average baby:<BR/>Sleeps through night (Meaning a 10 or 12 hour stretch) with some reliability/predictability by 3 months with occasional night wakings for illness and teething. Rarely sick in the first year. <BR/><BR/>Difficult baby:<BR/>Sleeps through night with predictability by 9 months with occasional night wakings for illness and teething.<BR/><BR/>Landon has been incredibly tough. Not only did he have reflux, not only does he not sleep, not only has he had health problems . . .DCFS gotten involved. Your first year of parenthood is harder than what anyone bargains for. No one could have predicted how hard it would be and I doubt you'll ever experience a year that has been as hard as this one. If you have another baby, it will most likely be a piece of cake for you. <BR/><BR/>It is totally normal to have those feelings - we all have them. But also know that for you, parenthood has been way harder than it has been for most.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3552008288188142238.post-32050260023379355772008-04-07T16:55:00.000-05:002008-04-07T16:55:00.000-05:00Delurking to say that I feel exactly the same way ...Delurking to say that I feel exactly the same way about my kiddos. I've often felt that parenting was just too hard and I wanted to push the rewind button--and then the little rascals do something so adorable you'd never trade them.<BR/><BR/>Now our younger one is 2 and we do sleep...I promise you it will get better. I AM looking forward to the day they can turn on the TV for themselves on Saturday mornings so we can sleep in.Alisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10065962367181064516noreply@blogger.com