tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3552008288188142238.post3309047270718552259..comments2024-03-27T12:22:20.528-05:00Comments on Lag Liv: So THAT'S How She Does ItLLhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04431706155081017734noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3552008288188142238.post-50038952931725917332008-01-23T11:35:00.000-06:002008-01-23T11:35:00.000-06:00yeah, I don't know that I could give up that emoti...yeah, I don't know that I could give up that emotional intimacy, either.Wineplzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12412881827548705342noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3552008288188142238.post-59632459105089922832008-01-21T11:38:00.000-06:002008-01-21T11:38:00.000-06:00excellent definition of marriage, ll. you've now ...excellent definition of marriage, ll. you've now pronounced me good and married. :)ohchickenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16965782534798318412noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3552008288188142238.post-34959011991485223462008-01-21T05:49:00.000-06:002008-01-21T05:49:00.000-06:00Well said! She is basically arguing that marriage ...Well said! <BR/>She is basically arguing that marriage is a convenience that affords her cheap daycare and minimal sex. You're right she has no idea what she is compromising.Emblitahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17536633790763026037noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3552008288188142238.post-64348946938808673052008-01-20T22:39:00.000-06:002008-01-20T22:39:00.000-06:00Bingo.Bingo.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3552008288188142238.post-67139556155130281202008-01-20T20:05:00.000-06:002008-01-20T20:05:00.000-06:00I'm totally obsessed with "Big Love." Modern poly...I'm totally obsessed with "Big Love." Modern polygamy is fascinating.<BR/><BR/>The author's argument is definitely flawed because of her underlying belief in male domination of women, which is a basic tenant of fundamental mormonism (I'd go so far as to say it's a basic tenant of mainstream mormonism as well). Polygamy might be her way of finding some liberation in that domination, but it still doesn't excuse the masogyny involved.<BR/><BR/>But I guess everyone has different ideas of what a marriage should be, and what life should be. Whatever makes you happy, I suppose. No way I could ever share my husband either. And why would he want a multitude of wives bitching at him for leaving his shoes in the middle of the floor and not taking out the trash? I'd say one wife bitching at him is plenty!Andreahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11173655298262399906noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3552008288188142238.post-32318660838032955872008-01-20T10:49:00.000-06:002008-01-20T10:49:00.000-06:00i cant even think about my boyfriend's ex..well i ...i cant even think about my boyfriend's ex..well i mean we dated for awhile,broke up and now we are back together but it kills me to think that he was close with another girl besides me. i like to pretend girls in his past never existed.but i agree with you, it would be devestating either way if my man cheated on my whether that be physically or emotionally. there is something about that special bond..h*dizzlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05470815158132272242noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3552008288188142238.post-72136567232585997622008-01-19T23:20:00.000-06:002008-01-19T23:20:00.000-06:00I understand the appeal of sharing your husband in...I understand the appeal of sharing your husband in that she basically gained a wife. She got to go out and work while the other wife stayed home. However I don't share well with others so that wouldn't work for me. I would need to be the alpha wife. I already compete for my husband's attention with the baby, his boss, his friends, the TV, etc. The last thing I need is to compete with 8 other women too. He is my best friend. And what happens if you hate one of his wives? How weird would that be? I also worry about someone who can run out of things to talk about with a spouse after 2 weeks alone when they only see each other once a week normally?Someone Being Mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08984828094257765105noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3552008288188142238.post-63836611025298619132008-01-19T21:37:00.000-06:002008-01-19T21:37:00.000-06:00There was a special on TLC late one night about a ...There was a special on TLC late one night about a guy with three wives. These women swore that it was terrific for the same reasons - they had support in raising their family, household duties, etc. BUT - when the guy tried to add another wife into the mix, these women's true feelings were exposed. They went from fully supportive of the concept to just what you'd expect: jealous, angry, mistrustful. <BR/><BR/>Apparently, it worked great until the new wife came along - the other wives didn't like her. She had different theories about housekeeping and the other wives thought she was lazy. They were frustrated because they had no say at all in whether she joined the family or not. I guess if you have to share your husband, it's even worse if you don't get any say on who you have to share him with. There was a lot of talk about "learning to live with her" at the same time they were extoling the virtues of the multi-wife household! It's interesting that it's so easy to see a bad situation from afar, but that these women were so close to the situation they couldn't admit to themselves that they had a lousy setup - even though it was obvious that they were unhappy.<BR/><BR/>No way I'm sharing my husband!<BR/><BR/>Oh - and thanks for visiting my blog! Please stop in again!KGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10236206776336550381noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3552008288188142238.post-11206820072783766392008-01-19T19:41:00.000-06:002008-01-19T19:41:00.000-06:00That is an absolutely fascinating take on polygamy...That is an absolutely fascinating take on polygamy. I've heard arguments in third-world countries, where many women die in childbirth and can't support themselves, about how it allows all women to be taken care of, but never considered it in a first-world context.<BR/><BR/>I come from a Christian perspective, and interestingly enough there's more support for polygamy in the Bible than there is divorce. Just something fun to throw into certain conversations... :-)<BR/><BR/>That said, I, too, couldn't even fathom sharing my husband with another, even in our worst moments.Meikahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14033972601038792745noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3552008288188142238.post-35259300278340319862008-01-19T19:31:00.000-06:002008-01-19T19:31:00.000-06:00Great post. I feel exactly the same way about my h...Great post. I feel exactly the same way about my husband--he's my soulmate and I would never want to share him with another woman!Alisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10065962367181064516noreply@blogger.com