Friday, October 5, 2007

And It Gets Worse

The skeletal scan showed two more fractures in his ribs and all his blood work is normal. Their diagnosis remains child abuse and we're the suspects. We keep being told that everything works out better if we're honest- no matter what we did. I don't know how to make them believe that we've never hurt him. We've told them about JP tossing him up in the air and catching him and anything else we can think of, but they keep saying it would take a Lot of blunt force to break ribs. I can't even imagine using that much force against our baby. DCFS is coming in soon. This is such a nightmare.

23 comments:

  1. Could it be from the time he was in the nicu? Has he ever been left alone with someone other than you 2? I just know, reading ur blog u wouldn't because u r always thinkink of how to protect him and care for him. Think hard when he was left alone and when his worst crying started to see if u can get a time line of when this happened and thus give u clues? I really believe it must be a weird medical weakness of bones but the only other possibility is someone else did it to him.

    I know u or jp didn't hurt him, ur pics with him show ur inability to hurt him bc u love and care for him.

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  2. What's the care regime for Landon? Will he get some releif at least, now that you know what happened?

    I can't imagine the nightmare you're going through - you're in my prayers.

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  3. OMG! I am so sorry. Poor baby -- surely there must be some explanation! Here's a link to a site where a doctor says broken ribs are common in premature infants:
    http://www.us.pampers.com/en_US/learning/page/exp_question_details/topicId/202/contentId/13840/type/104/stageId/105.do

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  4. Oh God. Can you get him to see a pediatric bone specialist who will have more of a clue of what could be happening to him? This is such a nightmare.

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  5. Stay strong! And best wishes to jp he sounds like a great guy and I believe he wouldn't have hurt anyone either!

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  6. Regarding the pampers post above, go to www.us.pampers.com, then 'Learning by topic' and 'Health'. The article is called "What could be the cause of my premature infant's broken ribs?" My thoughts are with you!

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  7. My heart goes out to you. I cannot imagine how you and your husband must feel right now. This is the most nightmareish scenario I can think of going through.

    I just want to add that I think you should get a lawyer right away. As a first step, go talk to whoever teaches family law at your school and ask if they or someone they know can advise you. If you are being repeatedly questioned, you do *not* want to be in a situation where you accidentally contradict yourself out of exhaustion, memory lapse, or whatever. After you've told them the truth once, you can easily get into a bad situation without realizing it.

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  8. Check out this website about preemies and bone problems:

    http://www.comeunity.com/premature/research/helen-rickets.html

    This seems like the most plausible explanation for broken ribs. I'm surprised the doctors haven't considered this. I wonder if you can try to get a second opinion from an expert.

    Good luck, and don't lose heart! This will all be cleared up soon. I'm so sorry you have to go through this.

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  9. My heart completely goes out to you two. I know that you are good and loving parents and the truth will come out. This must be so stressful but I'm sending good vibes your way and best wishes for a speedy recovery for Landon.

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  10. I agree with 11:04 - get a lawyer right away. Get a second opinion. Also, have you told DCFS about Maya? I know you think she's great but you just never know.

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  11. Wow. I've been following your blog for awhile now, and I can't believe this. I'm certainly praying for all three of you. I agree that you should get a lawyer, ASAP.

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  12. Agreeing, get a lawyer.

    ((Prays))

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  13. A friend forwarded me a link to your blog - I'm so sorry for all you're going through.

    I know you probably want to cooperate with the police as much as you can to help straighten things out, but you need to be careful. If the police already have it in their minds that you hurt your child, they're not interested in hearing your story.

    Ask to tape record any and all conversations you have with the doctors, nurses, social worker, social services, or the police. If they refuse, take scrupulous notes of what you and they say, their name/title, and the date and the time of the conversation.

    And seriously consider at least talking to a lawyer. I know you're most concerned with your child's health and safety, but you need to make sure you don't end up facing serious criminal charges.

    Best of luck to you and your family.

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  14. i'm so so sorry. i hope everything will be fixed soon.
    sarah

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  15. you are good, honest people. you will be cleared in this! just stand strong.

    is all of this DFS/police intervention at the direction of the GI docs? is there some way to get a pediatrician or some kind of baby specialist involved to support your case?

    and...i agree...talk to a lawyer (you prolly already knew that).

    hang in there! we are all rooting for you!

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  16. LL, I've been reading your blog for a while and I can't believe this is happening...Please stay strong!I wish you, JP and Landon all the best. I hope this insanity ends soon and Landon gets better!

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  17. RR!!! im praying for you ,Landon and JP and sending positive vibes your way. i know you guys are great parents and it sucks that the hospital is putting ya'll through this =((

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  18. Hey-

    I went to your school, (though you probably don't know me,) have been reading you for a long time, never commented- but I worked a summer in this field and have a lot of people I could put you in touch with if you want to talk to a lawyer or learn more about the DCFS process, how to navigate it, etc. I know a lawyer who works almost exclusively with helping families who have been wrongly accused of abuse who I'd be happy to put you in touch with. I am so horrified you're going through this, and I know you have lots of resources through your own networks and at school, but just wanted to add any help I can give...

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  19. I am so sorry that you are going through this nightmare. And I agree with other commenters...contact a lawyer.

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  20. Oh my god. I just read your last 3 posts. I am so sorry you are going through all this. I hope everything turns out okay... like other commenters, I think it must be from the aggressive breathing help he received in the NICU. Please keep us posted. Best of luck.

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  21. Lawyers--check. Chocolate--check. Idiot hospital protocols--check.

    Bone specialist-being asked for.

    Keep being as incredibly strong as you are, LL.

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  22. I am in shock. I just scanned the latest entry title and thought "hmmm broken ribs...was LL in an acccident?" I went on to read the last few posts and am truly shocked. I pray the MDs discover the real cause.

    Look over your blog posts to jog your memory...perhaps you can pinpoint a time frame of his increased pain, perhaps even before he came home with you.

    If you can let us know, how are the docs treating the broken ribs?
    God bless you, JP and Landon.

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  23. Just wanted to say I have been thinking of you three all day.

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